My Justiney girl got me these gems for Christmas. I LOVE!!!!!! She also got me North and South DVD's. She is SO good to make sure everyone in the family has Christmas treasures from her. She is a great gift giver. 

Tonight we forced the kids (the four left at home) to watch a movie with us old folks. What a strange stage of life! At the dinner table tonight we only had three kids!  Corey is struggling. He keeps making them hang out, come home, be around. They are confused. Haha. The other night "we" had to have a talk with Rhett to not be on his phone so much at night. I told Rhett during the talk Corey and I were having with him...."Basically, dad misses you."

I flood facebook with funny memes about how terrible school is. It cracks me up. But honestly, I love it. I love what I am learning, I love the new friends I have that I am learning with, and I love the hospital where I am interning and I am grateful for the opportunity to gain an education.

Baconator!

Somedays at my internship when working with the mentally ill my heart literally feels like it wants to burst with love exploding out of it for these people. The lives of the people who visit us at the hospital lives are HARD. In my undergrad, one of my favorite professors told us that he use to work at the hospital where I am interning. He would tell his patients that at the moment the only difference between him and them is that for TODAY he is sitting on this side of the table. It is humbling and important to remember that. 

An important thing I have learned recently is that people are not "cutting" for attention. When people cut, their brain gives them chemicals that make you feel better.  It is a distraction from the deep emotional pain they are feeling. 

About five months ago I found it necessary to quit sweets. I get so addicted to it. I quit for four months, and I lost 8 pounds. I realize that isn't a lot in 4 months, but at least I was going the right direction. And most importantly I basically didn't care at all about desserts anymore. It was sweet freedom. I did eat some other things that turn into sugar (like french fries) that I needed to weed out. I made it clear until after Christmas and then I had some sweets here and some there and now I am a full fledge sugar addict again. And I have gained 4 pounds back. And I FEEL emotionally miserable. When I had lost my weight I felt so great. And as it has snuck back on it has really been painful. It should be easy to just eat carrots and get it off. Aside from the fact that something changed when I had my gall bladder out and healthy food doesn't like my stomach anymore, and the fact that I am eating out a ton from being so on the run, I am also a person who turns to food for peace. So I am really struggling.  I am going to try again.

You guys!!!! I feel so smart when I keep up with technology. My cute college kid friend who sold me my first smart phone a few months ago, always lets me "message" (I didn't even know what that was a bit ago!) him with questions that I don't know. And he is the sweetest to help me. I don't get people who complain about "kids these days". I think they are great. I have met MANY great ones. So he just taught me to access my pictures from my phone so now I can blog about them. All of this technology can be hard to keep up with when you really aren't that into it. 

So, I love the thrift store. I go in and have my routine of things I look for that bring a little joy to my life. I look for Pokemon or Mary Kate and Ashly VHS, cards for sending notes to people (I love when I can find old charming ones from when I was a girl), Toy horses of any kind, Puzzles that are from when I was a kid because they are way better made, fondue pot skewers, CLUE games, and fondue pots!!!!! haha, I feel like I have just told everyone the weirdest things ever! But those are the things I look for. Guys, I buy fondue pots. You can get them brand new for cheap. I have like six now and I never have used one. I think I mentioned this already once before. 

Anyway, last week....NO FONDUE POTS. But that is okay because they had this awesome had to have it BRAND NEW BACONATOR!!!!!!!!!

Corey joked about knowing why it was brand new because it was STUPID. But it wasn't. It was AWESOME!!!!!

We love it when the college girls come home! Kassidy and her twinny doing a mask. 

Oh!!! I should tell you about the sneaky puzzle thing I do with Bo now. When the girls went back to college Bo got his own room and a place to decompress and do his homework. He has a few flat dresser spots. I will get out a puzzle, put it on his dresser, do a few spots of the edge, turn a few piece over, and ususaly less then a week later he has the puzzle all done. I think it is the cutest thing ever and I think I am tricky.

Going ons!

So. I have been going to physical therapy with this body builder guy as my physical therapist. Sometimes he pushes so hard I wonder if it is because he is too strong and doesn't know his own strength? Or is that just how hard he is supposed to push for the manual therapy that they do to release whatever he is trying to release in my ligaments. He is enjoyable for me to have a conversation with because he was once a parole officer with sex offenders, a guard at a jail, and he knows about mental illness. Oh....and my knees feel 100% better after seeing him. He said they are not sore from being overweight. I don't know if that is true but I am choosing to believe him. He said my knee caps are not staying on track. And that is exactly what it feels like and it feels like sometimes I have to wiggle my leg to get it back in place. I am so frustrated by it. So he tapes my knees each time I see him. Last time he taught me how to do it myself and I ordered the special tape on Amazon. It as amazing how much sturdier my legs feel when they are taped. If I can do my exercises regularly for 3ish months the muscles should pull the knee caps back, so that's good. 

I basically spent the most for books this semester than I have ever spent before. $250.00! I died. I could have saved money if I had rented the books but I just can't do that. I need to own them so I can write all over in them and refer to them later. 

For the next person that tells me I should meditate!..........

I learned a new thing in therapy with Joel a few months ago, and I think about it so often because I really think I will use it in my career and my mothering. Have you guys ever thought about the negativity we give towards people who are doing things for attention? We say things like, "ignore them, they just want attention", or "don't' look at them they just want attention", or if they are self-harming, "ignore it, they want attention". 

What if....WE JUST GAVE THEM ATTENTION! Why is it a negative or a bad thing to give someone the attention that they need or that they are crying out for? Why are we invalidating people who are desperately needing validation? I thought that was so kind and insightful and generous and giving. I was like, WOW. So instead of being annoyed when people want attention...we give it to them!!!!! I feel so stupid that I ever thought there was a different or more effective or a better way. 

I told Joel that we need to come up with a quote for that because I thought it was so brilliant. Joel told me there was one. It's called "No Whiners" (I just did Junie B. Jones language right there, in case you care). I was like well that is just RUDE. But he explained it. If we give people the attention they need, they won't need to "whine". The object is to meet needs so that they don't have to cry out and we don't have any whiners, their needs are met. That sounds pretty Christ-like to me if you want to think about it in that way. 

By the way, self-harm is not necessarily a cry for attention. Huh! I am going to blog about that tomorrow. 

We had the sweetest Christmas Eve yet. 

For the record, I have no idea how this happened but we began watching The Planet of the Apes for Christmas Eve. We did it for years and years. It. Makes. No. Sense. This year we went to Corey's mom's instead and had clam chowder.

Carolyn's husband, Dale, has been my kid's Grandpa for about 7ish years now. We adore him. He is so much fun and kind. He read us a little Christmas story and then bore his testimony of Christ. It was absolutely beautiful and tender and so incredibly heartfelt. 

Then he gathered us in a circle, had us hold hands, and he said a prayer for all of us. It was so beautiful.

I was really grateful that my children had the opportunity to feel the spirit of Christmas and love and see the humble testimony of their sweet Grandpa that we so thankfully claim as ours! 

(This picture was a few years ago.)

I spent the evening getting organized for the new year! I don't ever make new years goals. But I am making some goals. I waste too much time! I don't do my exercises for my bad knees that my PT tells me to do (I love that guy), I have eaten sugar the past week, I want to have a strong body, I want to pass the MSW test I have in six months, I want to lose some of the weight I gained, I want to connect with God, I want to have gratitude, I want to save money, and I want my PICTURES ORGANIZED ON THE COMPUTER!!!!! So I have made goals surrounding these areas and I have made a daily goal book that I am super excited about, and we will see how it goes!!!!!!