This isn't news to me. But yep. I cried. I have been having this little fantasy that he was doing so well! I was pretending that his little struggles had all gone away. I have been seeing him as the darling boy I know he is.
If it weren't for the knowledge that my sweetie...
was also a sufferer I might have more despair. But I see many a successful person with ADHD so I don't despair. It just needs to be addressed.
I really like Bo.
He was the most difficult baby. I knew from day one in the hospital I was going to be in trouble. He had 13 ear infections before he turn one. He had a stint with RSV....and he refused to take a pacifier. I held him his whole first year of life.
I was also up and down with him all night long the whole first year of his life. I was annoyed about that one at first because of course it is exhausting but then I remember one night... just sort of embracing it and using my favorite saying "it is what it is" and I surrendered to it. And I found peace in it. As in, I wasn't annoyed by it any more. (At least that is how I remember it 5 plus years later... *wink*)
Because of ear infections he has struggled with what I consider severe speech delay. I don't technically know if it is considered severe but it seems severe to me. Having speech delay surely seems to delay you in other ways so it has been a bit of a struggle. He had some struggles in preschool where he would fight to the death with some boys....the teacher was really worried about him but they switched him to a different teacher and a different group of kids and they couldn't believe he EVER fought with anyone. That is the Bo I see.
The boy I see is the sweetest little sweetie pie. He is by far my most lovingest child. He loves on me all day and tells me he loves me and wants kisses and hugs. At home when it is just him, he calm and quiet and loves to play. He is darling to me. Darling! I mean it. I just think he is so sweet! He is so sweet!
So, I guess we will tackle this battle (again) with ADHD but I know we can conquer. Because I love him. That's enough, right?
Bo just had a birthday. He wanted a Buzz Light Year cake....I made it....IT CRACKS ME UP. I just thought it turned out hilarious! Faces are hard!!!!!!
I know people are making these perfect masterpiece fondant cakes. Mine are the perfect homemade amateur cake. I would never be able to sell one, nor would I want to but they are perfect for a mom to give to their kid on their birthday.
And my kids think I am way cool! Really, they do. Okay...only the kids 12 and under think I am cool still. The girls have caught on. Boo.
Bo got a Buzz Light Year for his birthday. We had a little party at Grandma's.
Kate loving on sweet new gramps.
Uncle Dan cam right when the party was over and we were leaving. It is too much work to get all the kids back in the car so we had to talk right in the car...
But then wrestle time with Uncle Dan was too good to pass by. Uncle Dan is a trained lethal weapon you know!
Rhett LOVES it!
Kate loving on Grandma. She is a love bug!
I love my mom and dad! (no pictures of Aunt Sherri, sorry friend!)
2 comments:
Love the amazing cake! As a mother who just made another cake disaster ((you can see it!!), I'd love for you to write some of your tips. Like, your best frosting recipe, how to cut/shape cakes without tons of crumbling, etc. Also, how do you successfully make red frosting? The year of a pink Lego cake taught me no amount of liquid food color will turn red, so I went for paste coloring this time for a fire engine cake. It took the ENTIRE bottle, and I still had to add all the liquid color I had. The best I got was a deep coral, but thankfully in the photo it APPEARS red. That's good enough for a son's memory, right?
I truly hope I don't weird you out by my frequent comments. I just get so much joy from your blog and am inspired by how sweet a mother you are. You are refreshing.
Nancy said...Bo is a sweetheart! Grandma loves him no matter what he may have!
Ronda said...Wow that amazes me that his teacher would put herself "out there" and say that. When Jordan was diagnosed with ADD I went to her teacher and asked WHY she NEVER said anything to me. She said that she wasn't a Dr. and that she couldn't legally say anything. I too had known for Years that "something" was wrong, but I just couldn't put my finger on it. She also had disciplinary problems, was fidgity, etc...but was soooo loving. It was hard to stay mad at her for any length of time. But one day I was reading a check list of sorts on ADD and Jordan fit Every symptom. I was shocked and relieved. I know knew what was "wrong" with her. I took her to a specialist and got her diagnosed. NOW it all made sense. (even as far as knowing that her father, who she takes after, is ADD) I hope you find some sort of treatment that works for you and him. Medication isn't always the answer but sometimes its the only thing that does work. I tried Everything before we went to the drugs, I was determined not to put her on meds. But, I finally gave in. I wanted her to succeed in school and have friends and the way she was going it just wasn't going to happen. My advise is to research it ALL before making a decision. Good luck to you ♥
Wendy said...He's going to be just fine! You'll see to that. :-)
Mary said...ditto to Wendy-loving, involved parents-loving, precious Bo
Susan said...Rhonda, I think it much more understood now. Or accepted. And the teacher does know me personally so maybe she felt comfortable talking with me more than in your case. And I have also approached her about it before. Thanks for all your words of wisdom. We will get through it. :)
Jessi said...Cute little Bo. He'll be just fine with you in his corner! :)
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